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FEEL LIKE YOU'VE GOT ADD? Solutions for the Frazzled and Overwhelmed

Posted by: Anne Tergesen on March 01

About a year ago, I had the pleasure of interviewing Dr. Edward Hallowell, a Sudbury (Mass.) psychiatrist, who believes many of us are suffering from environmentally induced attention deficit disorder, brought on by technology and activity overload. Tonight, as I dashed from email to homework to dinner to laundry and back—interrupted periodically by my four-year-old pleading for help with just about everything you can imagine— Hallowell’s message was on my mind (that is, to the extent that anything was on my mind for more than a fleeting second).

Not surprisingly, he feels that working parents are particularly susceptible to this syndrome. I have to admit, Hallowell’s description of my life is pretty much dead-on: “They’re juggling deadlines, games, rehearsals, and school meetings. They’re worrying about how the grocery shopping, cooking, and laundry will get done. People want to do all these activities. But they take on more than they can reasonably do. E-mail tends to facilitate the overscheduling.”

The good doctor has a number of tips for the frazzled masses. I’ve tried to incorporate many of them into my daily life. Despite tonight’s chaos, I feel I’ve made some progress—although I obviously still have a ways to go when it comes to multi-tasking, a tactic Hallowell is particularly down on. (In his recent book CrazyBusy: Overstretched, Overbooked, and About to Snap – Strategies for Coping in a World Gone ADD, Hallowell presents convincing evidence that the brain cannot focus on more than one thing at a time. The notion that multi-tasking is efficient is simply a myth, he says). Here are some of his other tips:

1) Set aside time to work before you check your e-mail or snail mail or voice mail, before you allow the world to intrude on your fresh and focused state of mind.

2) Do not allow the world to have access to you 24/7. Turn off your BlackBerry and cell phone. Stretch or have a five-minute conversation. When you sit down again, you’ll be focused.

3) Prioritizing is crucial. If you don’t, you’ll find yourself spread so thin you’ll only be able to see your good friends on the first Tuesday in February.

4) Give yourself permission to end relationships and projects that drain you.

5) Do what you’re good at and delegate the rest. This is important, because when we do what we’re good at, the work can take on the quality of play.

6) Keep in mind that some of our best thoughts come when we’re doing nothing. Downtime is a forgotten art.




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Reader Comments

James Torguson

March 3, 2007 01:26 AM

The good doctor missed the obvious:

TURN OFF THE DAMMED TV!

(From soaps to sports to the evening news...wathcing television make you shift your focus every 8 seconds! Gee, I wander why the nation is "suffering" from an attention deficit......6..7..8..OK! You can think about something else now!)

Jim Dugan

March 3, 2007 11:35 AM

Good point. The TV should be saved for a Friday or Saturday night as entertainment. There is enough distractions around the rest of the home that actually need focused attention, and I can never see television as one of them. If you find yourself becoming obsessed with a particular TV show then I think one needs to step back and ask why a TV show ranks high on one's priority list. Is it filling some void?

Dr. Rohn Kessler

May 16, 2007 02:10 PM

I agree with the comments about turning off the TV and saving it for weekends. I took it a step further four years ago when I threw ours out and did not replace it. More time for reading, playing the violin, etc.

I am in the learning achievement business (www.sparksofgenius.com) and we do a lot of cognitive training on computers to help children improve attention, memory, listening and impulse control.

The after school program is busy with parents "...juggling deadlines, games, rehearsals, and school meetings. They're worrying about how the grocery shopping, cooking, and laundry will get done."

But it's a beautiful thing to watch their children slowly but surely improve visual and auditory attention skills. Soon they learn what it feels like to be fully attentive in the present moment and how to transfer the skill to school,home, friends, sports and creative accomplishments.

Sure, it takes time, but at least there is a safe, natural way to train the brain.

And those "frazzled, overwhelmed" parents, well...it is inspiring what they will do to help their children.

Victoria Gold

July 7, 2007 11:55 AM

I am sick of the television as well.My husband acts as if im depriving the children of their childhood by not letting them watch it. I'd rather paint, read,listen to music or just let them play freely. I think the television deprives children of their childhood. I'm trying to show them learning is fun. Watching a movie once in a while is fine but watching television everyday is draining without even doing anything.

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In this blog, BusinessWeek’s Lauren Young, Cathy Arnst, Diane Brady, Karyn McCormack, Anne Newman, Mauro Vaisman, Lourdes L. Valeriano, and Joy Katz, Mark Hyman, along with freelance writer Savita Iyer-Ahrestani, lead a broad discussion of the issues and day-to-day concerns of working parents, offering up interviews with work/life experts, examinations of relevant research, and their personal accounts of bouncing between separate, sometimes conflicting worlds.

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