Posted by: Lauren Young on August 25
This guest post was written by Erin Kane (pictured here), who is a work-life balance contributor for BusinessBalance.com
As any parent who travels regularly for business knows, we’re all just one canceled flight (or sudden high fever) away from complete mayhem back at home. Juggling work and family takes on a whole new dimension when one parent travels (never mind when both do!).
Over the years, I’ve had to travel to visit clients, attend professional development conferences, set up booths at trade shows and oversee special events. When I was in my twenties, this was deemed a valuable perk of the job. Now that I’m older—and have young children at home—it’s no longer as simple as packing a bag and heading to the airport.
While I trust that my husband is perfectly capable of feeding the kids (frozen pizza) and getting them to day care (it’s pick-up I worry about), I just feel better about my business trips when I’ve set everything in its proper place at home before I’m thousands of miles away.
For me, it all starts with an organized and well-stocked kitchen. With the economy being what it is—and our household budgets feeling the squeeze—it’s even more important to plan ahead, because making mealtimes easy also cuts down on the takeout bill. Try to buy only what the family will eat, like plenty of pre-assembled or frozen meals from the grocery store instead of food that might spoil from neglect. To facilitate an easy kitchen clean up, I stock up on inexpensive paper plates and plastic utensils from the dollar store.
Once the kitchen is stocked, it’s time to get organized. For me, this means:
* Preparing a daily schedule to share with a caregiver, babysitter and/or spouse. Be sure to include important times for the bus, day care pick-up and emergency contact numbers
* Organizing diaper bags, backpacks and signing permission slips and school paperwork in advance
* Washing the kids’ clothes to ensure the all-important T-ball shirt is clean come game time
* Swapping carpool schedules and confirming with other parents via e-mail
* Using Google calendar (or another online calendar) to lock in travel dates, log the kids’ extracurricular activities and share with others who need to be “in the know”
Once I have arrived at my destination, I use technology to connect with my kids back home. Skype and Google video chat allow me to see my kids and talk to them in real time (and it’s free!) So, even though I have complete confidence in my husband, it is so nice to see that the kids left the house that morning somewhat presentable to the public and that they have actually combed their hair.
So what do you do to prepare for business travel? How do you keep things running smoothly back home?
Erin Martin Kane is a professional freelance publicist who makes a living promoting media projects out of her home office. She specializes in public television programs and Web sites. When she’s not working, blogging or podcasting she’s chasing around her two little boys in a suburb of Boston. Erin blogs for the work/life section of BusinessBalance.com, a web site designed by Embassy Suites Hotels specifically with an eye for how to help business travelers on the road. She also produces the weekly podcast “Manic Mommies,” which she co-hosts with her neighbor, Kristin Brandt. It was through podcasting that Erin developed a genuine interest in technology, and today she’s constantly on the hunt for products and platforms that simplify her work and help her manage her household.
I can totally relate to how crazy this is. Last minute travel is the worse because it causes stress on all levels.
Keeping calendars in sync is key. I still haven't found a fool proof way to do it yet but I'm always on the look out.
I also go shopping and stock up the house. One less thing that people have to worry about at home.
I also use to take along a buddy from my kids that I would take pictures of on the road and send them home. They always got a kick out of that and it helped them feel connected.
I enjoyed the article "Better Business Travel While the Family Stays Home", because I can identify with many of the concerns stated. I am not a business woman that travels, but I am a mother of two young children, and my husband and I are both work outside of the home. My husband and I are both educators, and we are both enrolled in college half-time. It's difficult to balance our home and work life, but we do it because it's a part of life. However, I am always looking for the most efficient way to accomplish everything that must be done daily. I used to think that I could just keep everything together in my brain, but there's not amount of multitasking that keeps it all together. What does work for me is scheduling events, activities, and daily routines and procedures. I try to stay on task and on scehdule. At least now I'm not missing doctors appointments, classes, and other important engagements. It gets hectic trying to keep everything balanced, and balance is the operative word. So, to all the working parents stick with it, and remember balance is key.
My husband and I both travel for work - he moreso than me but mine seems to be more concentrated (I haven't traveled since last Dec and am now looking at 3-4 international trips in the next 3 mos). Maybe this is more of a marriage than balancing discussion but what I resent is that when he travels, it's all about getting himself ready -and when I travel - it's that plus what you've mentioned above. My colleagues laugh that I look forward to a 9 hour flight as a break...
Who cares if the kids have combed their hair or look "presentable"? They're KIDS! Let your husband be a dad, instead of treating him like another one of your children. You say you trust your husband, but obviously it's important for you to maintain control over the household. Relax, unclench, and let your husband be a parent too.
Wow, could you possibly any more insulting to fathers? I am fully capable of picking my kids up from school, making a home-cooked dinner (from ingredients even!), washing dishes, and making sure the kids do their homework and get to bed on time.
To Maria, here's a thought: next time you travel, don't do all this stuff. Treat your husband like an adult and let him handle things on his own. You might be surprised to find out he really isn't a child.
Maybe women would have less resentment towards men if they started to treat them like adults. All the time you take to make sure he is doing things your way could be better spent getting yourself ready to go. I wonder how many of you have tried just going without being so controlling to see if maybe the grown man you live with can handle things on his own.
In this blog, BusinessWeek’s Lauren Young, Cathy Arnst, Diane Brady, Karyn McCormack, Anne Newman, Mauro Vaisman, Lourdes L. Valeriano, and Joy Katz, Mark Hyman, along with freelance writer Savita Iyer-Ahrestani, lead a broad discussion of the issues and day-to-day concerns of working parents, offering up interviews with work/life experts, examinations of relevant research, and their personal accounts of bouncing between separate, sometimes conflicting worlds.