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Being pregnant while in business school was exhilarating and nerve-racking at the same time, said Bose, now working as a case writer at Stanford. She was one of three women in her class who became pregnant her first year of school, she said. Her decision required certain sacrifices. She had to miss many of the social events and parties and refrain from drinking at campus functions. She sometimes felt waves of nausea during class and had to fight the urge to leave and lie down. "I remember sitting in economics during my fall quarter and feeling sick to my stomach and thinking, 'How awkward will that be to run out?'" she said.
Once she announced the pregnancy to her classmates around Thanksgiving of 2004, she became somewhat of a celebrity on campus. "I think I was a bit of a novelty for some of my classmates, especially some of the younger guys in my class who were single," she said. "I was shocked at how friendly and interested a lot of these folks were. You would think people would want to avoid the pregnant lady like the plague."
The timing of her pregnancy proved challenging at times, she said. Her estimated delivery date was just one day after the final for her nonmarketing strategy class. Fortunately, the administration and professors were understanding and offered her flexibility with her course load and class work, she said. The school has a lactation room where mothers can breast-feed. While Bose never used the lactation room, it was nice to know it was there, she said.
When it came time to raise her newborn, Bose carved out her own maternity leave. She chose to forgo the traditional summer internship the summer of her first year, instead pursuing an independent study during her spring semester. This allowed her to stay at home with her newborn son that summer.
The prospect of becoming pregnant while in business school also appealed to Michelle Fertig, 28, one of the three co-founders of the Women in Business group at Columbia. She became pregnant during her second year of business school and gave birth 10 days before her graduation last May, carrying her daughter across the stage with her when she received her diploma. "I know that a lot of my friends thought I was crazy, but it worked out so well because I wasn't working 15-hour days and my schedule was what I wanted it to be," Fertig said.
As a pregnant mom on campus, Fertig soon bonded with several other women on campus who were simultaneously balancing motherhood and schoolwork. One of the women she met was Williams, who was eager to create an organization that addressed the unique needs of mothers in business school. Another classmate, Aliza Goldgewert, also got involved. "We thought, we know that this topic is on the minds of a lot of women. It's the elephant in the room," Williams said. "Why don't we create a space where women can actually talk about this?"
The group was able to receive funding from the school and organized a series of roundtable events and discussions. Students brought up topics such as how to talk about family during consulting and recruiting events, ways to address gaps in work history if one took time off to raise children, and stigmas associated with families. They also invited guest speakers, such as Sylvia Ann Hewlett, author of Creating a Life: Professional Women and the Quest for Children, to talk before the group.
The programs struck a chord with students, attracting as many as 60 women to the events. Some of the attendees were mothers, while others were young women students who were considering motherhood. "There was just a real big hunger on the part of the students to have some coaching and mentorship within the program," said Nayla Bahri, Columbia's assistant dean of MBA student life.
Before long, the group teamed up with the women's group at Columbia's Executive MBA program. Many of the women in this program already had families and were eager to share their experiences and advice with the full-time MBA students, who had questions about day care and how to find the right school for their children. "We've learned these lessons a while ago and figured out how to deal with it," said Gillian Core, 30, a mom who started the Columbia women's EMBA group in January. "I went through a lot of legwork, and I didn't want someone else to have to go through what I went through."
And while dealing with case studies and infants together is one thing, tackling business school as a mother with teenage or young adult children poses its own unique set of challenges. Terri Wedge, a full-time MBA at the Daniels College of Business at the University of Denver, planned her 21-year-old daughter's wedding last spring in the middle of midterms. As the date drew closer, she realized she had unwittingly scheduled the wedding on the day of her statistics final exam. Not that she let that get in her way.
"We had the 70-person wedding in my backyard, the wedding cake, the preacher, the whole nine yards, and then at 6 that night, I went and took a stats exam," said Wedge, 42, who also works full time as a quality-control compliance analyst at Aurora Loan Services, a division of Lehman Brothers. In addition to her daughter, she also has two sons, 11 and 13, and a 4-month-old grandson.
Wedge is co-founder and current president of the Daniels Graduate Women in Business chapter. During recruiting brunches for the group in the fall, she makes a point of talking about her children and grandson. Younger women have reached out to ask her how she has juggled work and family. The incoming president of the organization for next year is also a mother. "We give them insight that they wouldn't normally have," Wedge said.
How does she deal with the new challenge of being both a mother and grandmother in business school? She's learned to study for her exams while holding the baby and her computer simultaneously on her lap. "This way I can be Grandma and do my homework at the same time," said Wedge, who will graduate in June. "A big part of it is just being able to be very flexible and taking things as they come."
Damast is a reporter for BusinessWeek.com.