ERIC WEISLER: 'NO BALANCE'
AGE
35
FAMILY
Wife at home; three children
JOB
Online producer, barnesandnoble.com, New York
HOW THINGS WORK
When his son, Alexander, was born nine years ago, Weisler was working nights, first at British Airways (BAB), then at a law firm. By day, while his wife, Bonnie, worked as a nurse, he was a parent. He found it rewarding but frustrating: It was hard to make male friends. More difficult was the adjustment to his current full-time day job--and to ceding most parenting to his wife. He's still involved at night and on weekends and helps with Alexander's Cub Scout pack. But he finds his new role as ''secondary'' parent ''less natural and more calculating.''
HIS TAKE
''There's no balance--the needs of a man vs. the responsibilities of a family man. Last night, I got home at 7 p.m., and it wasn't until 9:30 that all the kids were in bed. Now, I have to fulfill my role as husband and catch up on my wife's day. By the time we're done, it's after 10 p.m. I wanted to see the Mets game, and that's gone.''
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